Adversity is something we face every day; sometimes the challenges are small, maybe a problem at work or a misunderstanding which needs clarifying. At other times, they are life changing: a health issue, maybe the end of a relationship.
But what if you changed your perspective. What if what appears to be your life falling apart is actually falling together… for the very first time. Which is why you feel so uncomfortable.
Maybe what’s in front of you is serving you in valuable ways you don’t even understand right now.
As we mature and learn from our experiences, our emotional intelligence develops; for those who don’t have that maturity, feelings of rage, anxiety & stress are all increased and they face more difficulties in life.
Those individuals need to learn how to improve their self-worth, self belief and confidence.
Every emotion, no matter how fierce, can be tamed.
The issue with adversity is that most people never see it in a positive light. In fact, most see adversity as a sign that the world is out to get them. But this couldn’t be further from the truth.
Often, adversity provides us with an opportunity to learn some tough life lessons which build our character and resilience, ultimately improving our life and circumstances moving forward.
We fail forward, right ?
However, in order to see adversity in this way, we must first accept a few truths !
We have the freedom to choose how we respond to people, events, and circumstances.
We can respond in a negative “why me” way, or we can choose to respond in a more positive and productive way which could potentially open up new opportunities we previously weren’t aware of.
Finding happiness and fulfilment in life does not mean there is no noise, no challenges, and no hard work. It means to be in the midst of those things whilst remaining calm; it’s never the situation but your response to the situation which determines the result. It’s about letting go of the pictures in your head about how things were “supposed to be.”
No this isn’t easy – at times you will struggle. But it’s infinitely easier than continuing to fight to conform your life to some fantasy in your head !
Life is too short to spend at war with yourself. The biggest disappointments in our lives are often the result of misplaced expectations. Letting go of needless expectations is your first step to happiness.
Come from a mindset of positivity and acceptance, and you can deal with almost anything and grow beyond it.
Remind yourself that everything in life is temporary.
Every time it rains, it stops raining. Every time you get hurt, you heal.
So when things are good, enjoy it. It won’t last forever. If things are bad, don’t worry because it won’t last forever either.
Push yourself to take the next step, then the next, no matter what, you can be victorious!
Be strong, present and steadfast.
Your breakdowns often lead to breakthroughs in the end.
Every mistake, heartbreak and loss contains its own solution, its own subtle lesson on how to improve your performance and outcome next time.
You predict your future. Don’t stand on the sidelines letting life pass you by, jump in, get involved. Forget the things you can’t control and immerse yourself in the assortment of things you can.
We all lose sometimes. The greater truth is that no single loss ever defines us. Learn from your trials. Grow wiser. Press on.
It’s about being scared to death and then taking the next step anyway.
Use positivity, rather than letting negativity control you !
Being positive is a strategy, not a response.
Don’t wait for a reason to be positive. Choose to be positive about your situation, about your opportunities look for ways to express your positive vision. Work to make your life resonate with that vision, and enjoy all the rewards.
You may not have everything you want and you may be facing real adversity but you still have more than enough to appreciate right now.
When you look around you appreciate the beauty, feed the brain with positivity and you will find a positive solution going forward !
When you are faced with a seemingly challenging situation, start by answering these questions:
* What is the outcome I most want ?
* What other outcomes would be good, too ?
* What stands in my way of making these outcomes happen ?
* Who can I speak to that has overcome similar obstacles to those I face ?
Kizzi Nkwocha is the editor of Business Game Changer Magazine and publisher of The UK Newspaper, Money and Finance Magazine, the net’s fastest growing wealth creation publication. Kizzi Nkwocha is chair of The Ethical Publishers Association and co-chair of The Logistics Association. Kizzi made his mark in the UK as a publicist, journalist and social media pioneer. As a widely respected and successful media consultant he has represented a diverse range of clients including the King of Uganda, and Amnesty International. Nkwocha has also become a well-known personality on both radio and television. He has been the focus of a Channel 4 documentary on publicity and has hosted his own talk show, London Line, on Sky TV. He has also produced and presented both radio and TV shows in Cyprus and Spain.